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When a major life change occurs, it can be difficult to move on, especially if it involves the death of a loved one or a breakup. Dealing with the aftermath of such a change can lead to sadness, depression, and even substance abuse and, in extreme cases, suicidal thoughts. It’s important to know how to handle those feelings when they come and learn how to see the positive outcomes that could be possible in their wake.
One of the best ways to deal with a negative life change is to try and picture how you can use it as a jumping off point to turn something around in your lifestyle. Whether it’s getting healthy, making an effort to be more involved with your family, or taking better care of yourself, there are many ways you can use this major transition to your advantage.
Here are a few of the best ways to get started.
Breakups and divorces are never easy to get through, and they can throw your life into chaos when it’s time to divide up assets and figure out living situations, especially if you have children. But rather than letting that stress get to you, use it as a way to get organized and start fresh with the next chapter of your life. Go through the home and toss anything you haven’t used in a while, make a pile to donate, and put things aside that you want to keep but may not have room for–you can get a storage unit for those.
De-cluttering your home can be a very cathartic and healthy experience, physically, mentally, and emotionally. And while it may be difficult to go through belongings that were acquired during your relationship, it’s good to go through them and deal with those feelings now, rather than letting them eat away at you. Having a clean, organized space can do wonders for your energy levels and motivation and can even help you get better rest; after all, many of us have lost sleep over that long to-do list waiting on the fridge. For tips on how to get started with this process, read more here.
Losing a loved one–whether it’s to death or due to a breakup–is an extremely emotional process that can leave you feeling exhausted and drained. It’s imperative to take care of yourself during this time, so make a point to eat well-balanced meals, get adequate rest, and try to work in some daily exercise. Even if it’s just a walk around the block, getting up and out can be helpful to your mental health.
Use this time to focus on yourself and get healthy. Not only will it benefit you during an extremely difficult time in your life, it can be beneficial to you for years to come.
Major life changes often make us reflect on the things we’d do differently if we could, or on how fortunate we are in many ways. This is a great time to start thinking of others and how you can make an impact in the lives of the people around you. Maybe you want to help families dealing with a life-threatening illness find funding for hospital bills through a non-profit organization after watching your own family member battle it; perhaps you feel you can help victims in an abusive relationship find peace because you have your own experience with it. Take all those things that have brought you pain in the past and use them for good. Not only will you be helping others, you’ll be allowing yourself to heal at the same time.
It’s understandable if you feel like withdrawing right after a big change. Many people do, especially when they are dealing with sadness or depression. Just remember that there are people waiting to help should you feel you need it, and that these feelings won’t last forever.
About the Author
Jennifer Scott is a life coach and a blogger. With SpiritFinder, Ms. Scott offers a forum where those living with anxiety and depression can discuss their experiences.